1984

Power is inflicting pain and humiliation. Power is tearing human minds to pieces and putting together again in new shapes of your own choosing.

You are under the impression that hatred is more exhausting than love.

Sometimes they threaten you with something -- something you can't stand up to, can't even think about. Then you say, 'Don't do it to me, do it to somebody else, do it to so-and-so.' And perhaps you might pretend afterwards, that it was only a trick and  that you said it to make them stop and didn't really mean it. But that isn't true. At the time when it happens you do mean it. You think there's no other way of saving yourself, and you're quite ready to save yourself that way.You want it to happen to the other person. You don't give a damn what they suffer. All you care about is yourself.

if you want to keep a secret, you must also hide it from yourself.